I am back
Hello! It’s been a long time I have written about any book in this blog. I took a nice social media break but I didn’t break my habits of overusing social media yet. Once I let myself get back to Instagram, I realized how addicted I am to it. However, I am slowly finding a better balance for YouTube. Anyways, I am happy to talk about today’s book and to get back to writing the blog frequently. And today’s topic has been brought up by the Joyful vegan.
Since talked about the stages of veganism, I will shortly talk about what I experienced so far. Maybe it will be fun, maybe if you are not vegan yet, you can understand your vegan friends better or be able to figure out the emotional “mess” you will enter when you are becoming vegan.
Pre-vegan stage: Willful ignorance
I have mentioned this before, but I did not go vegan right after I found out what goes on in the slaughterhouse. I always felt it was wrong and honestly, the thought of my dad going and helping to slaughter pigs [well, he was helping my grandfather to do so since he was growing them] always made me a little sick inside. But it took me years until I said to myself “no, this is unacceptable.” It took learning about the environmental side of veganism to want to make some changes. And then I became vegan.
- Information consumption. In the beginning, I consumed so much information. I still do even I am six months in. I started with recipes because I needed to find out what to eat since I was picky and I don’t many veggies. It also showed up in studying every single ex-vegan I could find online because I am afraid of becoming ex-vegan. Know I know that people stop being vegan mostly for social reasons and the previous interest in information has got me a lot of nutrition information. Hopefully, that will keep me healthy and happy.
- Remorse. My remorse of “knowing” what happens to animals showed up weirdly. I become a little angry at others for doing the same thing I was doing for years. So my remorse for eating animals was a little bit anger towards others, but once I forgave myself it became easier to let go of the anger towards others too.
- Coming out as vegan. Coming as a vegan was a challenge. It always is. At first, I did not even tell my dad that I was vegetarian because I knew he would take it well. We try to not talk about it much since I know he still disapproves and he is miles away. However, he gladly served me “soy-kebabs” [vegan version of shish-kebabs] when I visited him this summer. After all, that was proof that all he wants me to be is happy and if people love you, they will have to accept the vegan part of you.
- Fundamentalism vs excitement. The best part of the book is part four about fundamentalism. I reread just before posting this blog and took her notes about not becoming evangelical. I still don’t know if I am showing my excitement about the topic or being too fundamental in my communication but if I am thinking about this, let’s hope I will change soon even if I am evangelical currently.
- Anger. And there is anger. I would like to think of myself as a very cute and nice person but the reality was when I turned vegan, I was not always shiny and positive. Okay, being angry is justified – millions of animals die every day when there is no need for it. But I used to get angry at conferences not having great vegan options and people almost getting it but not making the connection of how much violence they fund every single day fully. But then, I slowly remembered that I was pre-vegan too and did not even think why I was eating animals at all. Getting into the mentality of being a “hero” while others are the wrongdoers is toxic. We can and should be angry, but not at individuals who haven’t made the connection yet.
- Finding your tribe. Getting active and finding my tribe in the community has been amazing. I went to the mall with my friends and met someone active with me. Nothing better than getting a hug when you are not expecting one.
- Communicating the facts. Colleen gave good tips on talking about veganism with others. I think I am slowly getting more effective. My goal is to read more books about it soon.
- Going out of your comfort zone. I can’t say much about stretching the comfort zones but I do it all the time. I eat differently than I used to and I eat way more veggies than I used to. There are aspects of activism I don’t love [like not sleeping in because I am going to a vigil] but I still do it.
- Activism. I started activism without being fully comfortable with it. Maybe I started doing it early but I got no regrets. But I am also happy to take breaks and focus on myself too. It looks different for everyone though.
- Adaptation. It still gets uncomfortable to stand out when I meet new people to tell them I am vegan. I am afraid they will judge me. but at the same time, I am fine with it. In the begging, before the full adaptation, I was mad for not getting good options during the conference. Now, I am just happy to make it work somehow. And if they have a salad bar and a good vegan dressing, I can always bring chickpeas [seriously though, I love chickpeas]
I wonder if it useful for a pre-vegan to hear my perceptive?